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They Called Us Exceptional: And Other Lies That Raised Us

They Called Us Exceptional: And Other Lies That Raised Us

By Prachi Gupta

"In this vulnerable and courageous memoir, Prachi Gupta takes the myth of the exceptional Indian American family to task. "-- The Washington Post "I read it in one sitting. Wow. It aims right at the tender spot where racism, sexism, and family dynamics collide, and somehow manages to be both searingly honest and deeply compassionate.

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Publisher: Crown Publishing Group (NY)
Publish Date: 08/22/2023
Pages: 288
ISBN-13: 9780593442982
ISBN-10: 0593442989
Language: English

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"In this vulnerable and courageous memoir, Prachi Gupta takes the myth of the exceptional Indian American family to task."--The Washington Post

"I read it in one sitting. Wow. It aims right at the tender spot where racism, sexism, and family dynamics collide, and somehow manages to be both searingly honest and deeply compassionate."--Celeste Ng, New York Times bestselling author of Little Fires Everywhere

A SHE READS BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR - ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE SEASON: The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Boston Globe, Bustle

How do we understand ourselves when the story about who we are supposed to be is stronger than our sense of self? What do we stand to gain--and lose--by taking control of our narrative? Family defined the cultural identity of Prachi and her brother, Yush, connecting them to a larger Indian American community amid white suburbia. But their belonging was predicated on a powerful myth: the idea that Asian Americans, and Indian Americans in particular, have perfected the alchemy of middle-class life, raising tight-knit, high-achieving families that are immune to hardship. Molding oneself to fit this image often comes at a steep, but hidden, cost. In They Called Us Exceptional, Gupta articulates the dissonance, shame, and isolation of being upheld as an American success story while privately navigating traumas the world says do not exist. Gupta addresses her story to her mother, braiding a deeply vulnerable personal narrative with history, postcolonial theory, and research on mental health to show how she slowly made sense of her reality and freed herself from the pervasive, reductive myth that had once defined her. But tragically, the act that liberated Gupta was also the act that distanced her from those she loved most. By charting her family's slow unraveling, and her determination to break the cycle, Gupta shows how traditional notions of success keep us disconnected from ourselves and one another--and passionately argues why we must orient ourselves toward compassion over belonging.

About the Author

Prachi Gupta is a journalist in New York. She was a senior reporter at Jezebel and co-host of Jezebel's politics podcast, Big Time Dicks. Prior to that, she covered the 2016 election for Cosmopolitan.

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